Every Mom Should Know About Brainspotting

It’s 7:00 AM, the kids are fighting over who gets the bigger muffin, the dog just pooed on the rug, and you’re trying to find clean socks for everyone while mentally preparing for a day of work, errands, and approximately 54 snack requests. Sound familiar?
If you’re a mom feeling like the family won’t function unless you do it all, you’re not alone and it doesn’t have to be this way. Brainspotting therapy is an extremely effective modality in helping you become the parent you’ve always dreamed of being.
What Is Brainspotting Therapy?
I don’t even know how to begin to share my excitement about this therapy modality-Brainspotting. It works and it’s the closest thing to a magic wand that I’ve been able to give my clients. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a process and it’s some very deep therapeutic work, but the results are amazing and very effective in a gentle way.
Brainspotting is an approach to therapy that helps people access and process deeply rooted emotions. Discovered by Dr. David Grand in 2003, Brainspotting works by identifying specific eye positions (or “brainspots”) that hit the area where feelings, memories, and emotions are stored in the brain. These brainspots act like doorways to the brain’s emotional and physical experience, allowing a Brainspotting therapist to guide you through healing without forcing you to relive painful memories in vivid detail.
Now, before you roll your eyes and think, “Great, another therapy buzzword,” hear me out. Brainspotting isn’t just for trauma survivors in the traditional sense; it’s a game-changer for overwhelmed moms juggling a thousand responsibilities while barely holding it together.

How Brainspotting Therapy Helps Overwhelmed Moms
1. Stress Reduction: Find That Moment of Calm
Brainspotting Therapy is like a pressure release valve for your brain. When you’re an overwhelmed mom, stress can feel like a constant companion, hanging out with you while you’re scrubbing crayon off the walls or playing referee for the afternoon, “he started it,” match. Brainspotting helps you access and process the stress that’s been building up, allowing you to calm your nervous system and respond to your kids with more patience and less yelling.
Imagine being able to calmly say, “Please stop fighting with your sister,” instead of yelling and getting so tense that the vein in your forehead pops. Sounds nice, doesn’t it?
2. Healing Past Trauma: The Backpack You Didn’t Know You Were Carrying
Many overwhelmed moms are unknowingly carrying around trauma like an emotional backpack. Whether it’s a miscarriage, relationship abuse, or even generational trauma passed down like family heirlooms, these unprocessed experiences can weigh you down and influence how you parent.
Brainspotting Therapy gently helps you unpack that backpack, piece by piece. And here’s the kicker: you don’t have to rehash every painful detail. Your Brainspotting therapist will guide you to process the trauma stored in your brain and body, helping you let go of the emotional baggage that’s been holding you back.
3. Breaking the Cycle: Healing Generational Trauma
Ever catch yourself saying something to your kids and thinking, “Oh no, I’ve turned into my mother”? Generational trauma can show up in subtle ways—patterns of anxiety, harsh criticism, or difficulty expressing love. Brainspotting Therapy helps you recognize and heal these patterns so you can parent in a way that feels authentic to you, not dictated by your past.
You’re not doomed to repeat history. With Brainspotting, you can break the cycle and create a healthier, happier legacy for your family.
Expansion Spotting: Because Moms Deserve to Feel Good Too
Let’s talk about expansion spotting, a beautiful aspect of Brainspotting Therapy that’s all about helping you feel good. For overwhelmed moms, joy and relaxation can feel like distant memories, buried under piles of laundry and to-do lists. Expansion spotting gently guides you to focus on positive feelings and experiences, helping you reconnect with the version of yourself who danced in the rain or stayed up late laughing with friends.
Expansion spotting isn’t about ignoring the hard stuff; it’s about making space for the good stuff. It’s like finding the perfect balance between sipping your coffee while it’s still hot and savoring the sound of your kids’ laughter (when they’re not fighting over that blue cereal bowl).
Why Choose Online Therapy in North Carolina?
Life as an overwhelmed mom doesn’t exactly leave a lot of time for commutes and waiting rooms. That’s where online therapy in North Carolina and South Carolina comes in. With virtual sessions, you can connect with a Brainspotting therapist from the comfort of your couch—or the car while your toddler naps in the backseat. Convenience is key when you’re trying to squeeze self-care into an already-packed schedule.
What to Expect from Brainspotting Therapy for Overwhelmed Moms
1. A Safe Space to Be Real
Forget the Pinterest-perfect mom façade. In Brainspotting Therapy, you can show up as you are: messy bun, yoga pants, and all. Your therapist is there to support you, not judge you.
2. Gentle, Effective Healing
One of the most amazing things about Brainspotting is how gentle it can be. Unlike some other forms of trauma therapy, Brainspotting doesn’t require you to relive every painful memory. It works with your brain’s natural ability to heal, making the process feel organic and manageable.
3. A Path to Rediscovering Yourself
Brainspotting Therapy isn’t just about healing; it’s about growth. As you process your trauma and reduce stress, you’ll find yourself reconnecting with the parts of you that have been put on hold since you became a mom. You might even rediscover hobbies, dreams, or quirks you thought were long gone.
Why Every Mom Deserves Brainspotting Therapy
Motherhood is hard. It’s beautiful and rewarding, yes, but it’s also exhausting, overwhelming, and, at times, downright unfair. You deserve support. You deserve healing. And you deserve to feel like more than just the keeper of the snack cupboard.
Brainspotting Therapy offers overwhelmed moms a way to heal past trauma, reduce stress, and reconnect with joy.
It’s not about being the perfect mom; it’s about being a mom who feels good in her own skin—a mom who can face the chaos of life with a little more calm and a lot more confidence.

Ready to Take the First Step?
If you’re an overwhelmed mom ready to explore Brainspotting Therapy, you don’t have to do it alone. Online therapy in North Carolina and online therapy in South Carolina makes it easier than ever to connect with Eleena Hardzinski, LMFT; a Certified Brainspotting Therapist who understands what you’re going through. Because let’s face it: you’re worth it, mama.

Eleena Hardzinski is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Brainspotting Therapist who practices online in North Carolina, South Carolina, and Wisconsin.
Eleena supports women struggling with motherhood, relationships, past traumas, ADHD, and anxiety. She helps overwhelmed moms find balance, overcome guilt, establish healthy boundaries, heal from past traumas, improve family communication, and regain confidence and joy in their lives.